Character & Compatibility Matching

Step 4: Compatibility-Based Matching and Marriage Meetings

In Step 4, we bring together all the insights gathered from the Personal Insight Evaluation and Pre-Marriage Workshops to identify potential matches with compatibility and long-term success in mind. This process is rooted in a carefully balanced, psychologically-informed approach that takes into account each candidate’s values, personality, and goals. 


Our aim is to match clients with individuals who not only share similar life visions but also complement each other’s unique strengths and growth areas, setting the stage for a fulfilling, faith-centered marriage.



How the Matching Process Works

  1. Compatibility-Based Matching
    • Using insights from the assessments and coaching sessions, we evaluate each client’s compatibility with potential matches. Our process goes beyond surface-level preferences and focuses on deeper elements such as communication styles, values alignment, emotional readiness, and relationship goals.
    • Matches are suggested only once our team feels confident that the pairing has the foundation for a meaningful connection. Every match is carefully selected with a psychological perspective, ensuring a balanced approach that respects individual needs and shared aspirations.
  2. Facilitated Marriage Meetings
    • Once a potential match is identified, we arrange a facilitated Marriage Meeting. During this meeting, we’ll share the reasons why we believe the pairing could be successful, highlighting the complementary traits, values, and qualities that each person brings to the relationship.
    • This is also an opportunity for both individuals to ask questions, discuss personal priorities, and explore key areas of compatibility in a structured and respectful environment.
  3. Guided, Yet Autonomous
    • After the initial Marriage Meeting, the next steps are entirely in the hands of the potential couple. While we provide guidance, context, and facilitation, we respect that the decision to move forward is a personal one. Our role is to provide the setting for a thoughtful introduction; from there, it’s up to each individual to decide if they wish to take the relationship further.

Our Commitment and the Value of the Matching ExperienceWhile we aim to support each individual in finding a compatible spouse, we understand that it may not be possible to find a match for everyone who joins. For those who don’t find a partner through our service, we hope the experience itself provides valuable insights and growth. The journey through self-discovery, personal development, and facilitated match meetings can bring clients closer to understanding what they are truly seeking in a spouse.

  • Clarity and Self-Understanding: The process helps each individual gain deeper clarity about their values, relationship goals, and personal strengths, making them better prepared for future relationships.
  • Insightful Match Meet-Ups: Through the match meetings, clients gain real-world experience in connecting with potential spouses, building confidence, and refining their understanding of what they desire in a partner.

Outcome of the Matching Process

  • A Strong Foundation for Marriage: For those who find a match, our process ensures they are starting their journey with a partner who shares similar goals and values.
  • A Journey of Growth and Preparation: Even if a match isn’t found, clients will have experienced a process of growth and self-discovery that enhances their readiness for a future relationship.

This step reinforces the thoughtful, selective nature of the matching process, emphasizing that the service is equally about growth and clarity as it is about finding a compatible spouse. This approach respects each individual’s journey and communicates that, whether or not a match is found, the experience will be transformative.